What To Do For Your Partner If Their Love Language Is Giving Gifts
The 5 Love Languages is a New York Times best-selling book by Dr. Gary Chapman. There is an official quiz that can help people determine their love language and that can help their loved ones show that they care in the most effective way (via The 5 Love Languages). The five love languages are quality time, physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, and, of course, receiving gifts.
"If you or your partner's love language is gifts, that means you feel loved with a tangible item," Mark Williams, a counselor and relationship coach, told Verywell Mind. "Whether that item is a tiny trinket from a thrift store or a 50-foot sailboat is inconsequential. Either convey the same message: I was thinking about you when I saw this. You're always on my mind."
It is normal and expected to give presents on birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays, but when it comes to partners who feel the love through gifts, what else can be done?
This love language is all about remembering, regularity, and resourcefulness
First of all, remember to set reminders. Hopefully, we always know the day that our significant other entered the world, but we can also mark down the day they graduated, when our first date was, and so on, in order to celebrate with more gifts.
There should also be regular "just because" presents. "It's not just holidays — any day is a good day to give a gift to a person whose love language is receiving gifts," author Chapman told HuffPost.
Elizabeth McCorvey, a social worker, also had a good idea, which was shared with Insider: "Sneak a peek at your partner's Amazon or Barnes and Noble account and see what's on their wish list. Buy it all." With this strategy, though, be mindful of boundaries regarding trust and privacy, and keep in mind that a confirmation email could be sent after ordering, so feel free to get a little sneaky!