Why Caroline Giuliani's Statement About Her Sexuality Is Turning Heads

In an essay for Vanity Fair, Caroline Giuliani's statement about her sexuality is turning heads. The daughter of the former mayor of New York City (with whom she apparently doesn't share political philosophies, per Miami Herald) has said, "in these sexually-limiting pandemic times, reliving my spicy threesome memories has been a much-needed, COVID-free crutch for a single gal and her vibrators." In a personal essay, she opened up about sexual labels, intimate experiences with couples, and what being a unicorn means.

Giuliani revealed that she previously identified as bisexual and wanted to explore dating couples. She said that as she spoke to different couples through an app, "it dawned on me that this common thread was not a certain kink or favorite sex position, it was the commitment to embracing one's own nonconformity, the celebration of individualism and sexuality without shame."

In her essay, she described herself as a unicorn, a term which Urban Dictionary defines as a single woman interested in meeting couples, termed as such due to their rarity. Caroline Giuliani said, "I am attracted to people based on their presence and energy regardless of their biological sex, gender, or gender identity."

In her essay with Vanity Fair, Caroline Giuliani detailed some of her experiences talking to and being intimate with couples. "I know now that I am empathetic, radically open-minded, profoundly adventurous, and fiercely committed to telling stories that reduce the stigma surrounding sexuality and mental health—including this one, right now," she wrote. "Before I started living the unicorn life, I wouldn't have had the confidence to list those qualities or even feel certain that they are positive traits. Even now, I feel the urge to disclaim that I'm also excessively aware of my many flaws." She said by exploring polyamory, she's learned a lot more about herself, however unconventional. 

Caroline Giuliani detailed that she's even experienced judgment from people she considered to be open-minded, or "woke." She said that she had previously been in a monogamous relationship, and when it ended, she wasn't sure what was missing. Dating a couple turned her previous ideas of intimacy on their head.

While Caroline Giuliani says she's aware that her dating life is an "open way of being," she hopes to bust the myths and stigmas attached to polyamory. "One of the most frustrating misconceptions about sexually adventurous people is that we are somehow less responsible," she wrote. "But the opposite may be true. Shining a communal light on sexuality makes it harder for darkness, like assault and trauma, to fester."

She explained that she's shared great moments of connection with the couples that she's dated, and she's still friendly with them. By talking about her experiences and different types of intimacy, she hopes to combat shame culture. She also said it's helped her build her self-esteem and "remember my favorite parts of my identity." She wrote, "I want to live in a world where we talk about sex as comfortably as we talk about food or the weather."