Bizarre Behaviors That American Men Find Attractive
American men find some seriously bizarre behaviors attractive, science has proven. Although some behaviors have widespread appeal, that's not always the case. In fact, research has shown that what's considered attractive in one area of planet is not necessarily attractive in another. Yes, different parts of the world have totally different views on what is considered "attractive." There is also a great deal of science about body language that attracts men and women alike, certain behaviors that attract men specifically, as well as behaviors that attract people in general.
While you might think you know what men are attracted to in this part of the world, we think you're in for a bit of a surprise. The List did some digging and found some unexpectedly eye-catching behaviors. Read on to learn about bizarre behaviors you can practice; you just may end up totally wooing the next American man to enter your life.
Talking in a high-pitched voice woos American men
Ever notice how you talk in a higher-pitched voice when you're around someone to whom you are attracted? Well, if you're wanting to attract a guy, keep that up.
American men seem to like it when women talk in high-pitched voices, according to a study conducted by Nathan Pipitone and Gordon Gallup Jr. of the State University of New York in Albany and published in Evolution and Human Behavior. The study further revealed that women's voices are the most attractive when women are at their most fertile — which happens to be when their voices are highest. "The results showed a significant increase in voice attractiveness ratings as the risk of conception increased across the menstrual cycle in naturally cycling women. There was no effect for women using hormonal contraceptives,"the researchers said.
Americans aren't the only ones who are attracted to higher voices, though. Researchers in the U.K. also found that male listeners prefer a female voice that "signals a small body size, with relatively high pitch, wide formant dispersion, and a breathy voice."
Prolonged eye contact can make American men fall in love
Prolonged eye contact can be creepy and uncomfortable if you do it for too long. Or, you know, to the wrong person or at the wrong time or in the wrong way. After all, staring at someone for quite some time can become awkward for them — and it might make them second-guess what you're trying to do. But science says that it's not always so weird. In fact, American men may just fall in love with you if you sustain a desirous gaze for just the right amount of time, according to research by Arthur Aron, a psychology professor at the State University of New York at Stony Brook, cited in The New York Times.
As part of the study, "a heterosexual man and woman" sat "face to face and [answered] a series of increasingly personal questions" in a science lab, the publication explained. "Then they [stared] silently into each other's eyes for four minutes." The experiment led to the couple falling in love and getting married just half a year later.
Another U.S. study also showed that eye contact between two people of the opposite sex for just two minutes was enough for them to feel passion for each other. Maybe that's where the whole "love at first sight" idea came about.
American men are attracted to women who talk with their hands
Talking with your hands can be annoying to some people. No one wants someone else's arms flailing around in their face when they're trying to have a conversation. Never mind that it can be unattractive if your hands demonstrate a lack of confidence. That said, talking with your hands can make you seem more attractive to American men if you do it right.
"Your hand gestures need to be purposeful," AJ Harbinger of the Art of Charm wrote for Business Insider. "Don't let your hands dictate what they're going to do. Instead, be in control of your hand gestures just like you are the rest of your body language. If you're going to move them, for any reason, make sure that it's a choice and not something that just happens." So long as you're confident in your gestures, they can serve you well. Keep them out of your pockets and use them with intention, Harbinger recommended.
Wearing red attracts American men
Simply put: Red is a sexy color. It's long been associated with love, passion, and sex. Leslie Harrington, executive director of the Color Association of the United States, told HuffPost that we think of red in these ways because it is the color of blood, which is related to the heart — a universal symbol of love.
So if you've ever wondered why red lingerie or red lipstick just feels so great to wear, well, now you know. A U.s. study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that men perceive women who wear red as "more attractive and more sexually desirable" compared to women who wear other colors. Another research paper published in Ethology: International Journal of Behavioral Biology found that among some primates, "the red‐colored genitalia of females are a sexual ornament and attract males." The paper further noted, "The preference for red clothes among women is at times explained as being a parallel."
Ditching gender norms can be intriguing to American men
Sure, there's no such thing as "normal." None of us are the same; we all have our unique qualities. Still, there are still socially accepted norms — for better or worse. And, while you may have always felt like you need to fit in (spoiler: you don't!), women who choose not to conform to gender norms are actually intriguing to many American men. That's right, folks.
"Independent-minded people" in the United States, as well as the United Kingdom and India, tend to have better luck dating than conformists, according to research cited by the Scientific American.
"The old-fashioned gender stereotype — that men go for conformist, submissive women — has been slow to die," lead author Matthew Hornsey, a social psychologist at the University of Queensland in Australia, told the Scientific American. "I'm intrigued by the notion of the 'girls' night out' and how many women feel as though they can be more unguarded without men around — more relaxed, more crass, more honest, more funny." He explained that men would love this "good stuff" women tend to keep to themselves.
Wearing perfume can turn on American men
Smelling good is a major turn on for most men (and most people in general). But, more specifically, smelling scrumptious can really lure in American men, often in a way that's beyond their consciousness. Alan Hirsch, director of Chicago's Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation, told Cosmopolitan that scent can turn men on in a very primal sort of way. "Pleasant aromas can actually stimulate parts of the brain directly connected to sexual desire," he explained.
Cosmo surveyed 463 men to uncover the power of a woman's choice of scent. A whopping 81 percent said that a woman's fragrance could "boost her overall attractiveness" while 36 percent said that women's scents "drive them crazy on a first date." Additionally, 35 percent would be willing to "go to bed with a woman just because of [her] scent" and 42 percent admitted to having "fantasized about a woman's perfume."
Being introverted may help you snag an American man
While it's easy to assume that you have to put yourself out there in order to find a partner, some research suggests that keeping to yourself may actually work well. Author Sophia Dembling researched introverts (and interviewed more than 50 of them) for her book, Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After, according to Mic.
"I think many introverts go into the dating field with a sort of one-down feeling," Dembling told Mic. "It can feel like nobody will notice you among all those bubbly extroverts. The way I think of it: Extroverts sparkle, introverts glow. If you appreciate your own quiet glow, other people will see it, too." Dembling told Mic that introverts have an easier time with one-on-one social interactions in which they don't have to compete for attention. And they also enjoy substantive conversation, which lends itself to deeper connections while dating.
Thought Catalog interviewed men about why they love dating introverts, and their answers included everything from introverts seem more trustworthy to introverts have more thoughtful opinions. Additionally, Yale research revealed that introverts are better at assessing social situations, which would certainly be a helpful skill while dating.
Finding the right balance of talking in bed can be attractive to American men
Dirty talk can go one of two ways: It's either super hot or super not. And it's up to the parties involved to decide how much dirty talk is too much dirty talk. But finding the right balance of talking in bed — and figuring out how to communicate clearly and, well, in a sexy way — can really turn on American men.
In a poll of single people in the United States conducted dating site Match.com, 82 percent of participants considered too much talking during sex to be a turn off. That said, 78 percent of participants agreed that communication is important in order for the sex to be considered "good."
The simple reality is that talking in the bedroom is necessary to ensure that sex is consensual and, frankly, going well for all involved. Talking too much can seem forced, fake, or just plain uncomfortable whereas talking too little can lead to an awkward experience. Like everything else in life, balance is key.
Mirroring an American man's actions can deepen your connection
Mirroring a man's actions could help you to developer a deeper connection with him. We're not saying you should copy everything your date says like a game of "Simon Says." However, science indicates that mirroring a man's actions can work wonders.
"To put it simply, mirroring is matching someone's behavior, whether it's their voice, their words, or their non-verbal cues (think gestures, movement, and body posture)," American author and body language expert Tonya Reiman told Brides. "You can even experience people matching pitch, tone, blink rate, and breathing."
According to one study cited by Psychology Today, men are more attracted to women who mimic their behaviors. Mirroring doesn't have to be a big to-do. If a man puts his hand on his hip, you can put your hand on your hip; if he touches his left arm with his right hand, you touch your left arm with your right hand. We know that this sounds kind of weird — but the science shows it works. You may even notice that this behavior just sort of naturally happens.